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A New Addition - Dealing With ‘Extra-Grace’ Family Members

 Having a new addition to the family is an exciting time for the new parents and let’s not forget the grand-parents as well. Though exciting, it can also be a stressful time for those involved especially where family is concerned. I am sure you must be raising your eyebrows and wondering what l mean by this...

We cannot beat about the bush here! Your sisters want to be involved, your parents and in-laws also want to be part of the process but how do you keep everyone happy without disappointing or hurting those close to you? 

I remember this so well but sometimes it’s important to remember to ‘do you’ without stepping on anyone’s toes. You must keep in mind the fact that, in life, there will always be the ‘extra grace’ people but remember this is your pregnancy and this is your time to get to bond with your pregnant-self. If you feel overwhelmed and feel that the family is too much, be open and honest with everyone involved. Be assertive but don’t be offensive. An example is to say, “ l appreciate you want to be part of the pregnancy-journey but l will call you when and if l need your help right now l am coping well.” Get straight to the point. Avoid spewing too many unnecessary words because then you will drag yourself down a  rabbit hole and you want to avoid that because, with pregnancy you never know when you will need the help so it’s important to keep family and friends at arms length in a loving embrace. There’s much more to talk about because every situation is different but this is the first step to dealing with the ‘extra grace’ family members. 😜

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  1. Jupiter HadleyJanuary 2, 2021 at 12:13 PM

    What great advice! Everyone seems to really want to be apart of pregnancy, but it is such a personal time!

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